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I am a trained marriage, relationship and intimacy advisor and coach.
I am not a therapist.
My job is to not only listen to what is going on and provide a safe place for those issues, problems and hang ups to be aired but ALSO and importantly provide you with the guidance and tools you need both singularly and as a couple to improve and ignite your relationship.
Has there been a history of infidelity?
Let's look at that. Not with blame but with logic and accountability to resolve why it happened, the feelings surrounding it and how to prevent it from happening again which is obviously the goal when you choose to remain together after that kind of event.
Therapy is an amazing tool but it does not always work alone and only addresses the emotional impact afterwards.
My job is to help you both find out what turns in the path lead to the outcomes that have resulted in the need for therapy and coaching.
Like anything in life relationships don't just come naturally. To any of us. Human beings think and operate in and from self motivated and self serving instincts. That is natural, that is how we have evolved as people.
When we enter relationships we have to put a certain amount of that self serving ideology to the side in order to serve the unit or pair which is the two of you.
It takes time, trust and most of all communication and an open mind on both sides.
It also takes accepting that changing anything about someone should not be a goal which does not come naturally by any means, especially to us women. ;)
So. What can I do to help?
Well that is both simple and not.
The first session is 2 and a half hours long. I know that's a long time right?!
But necessary.
I have to speak with both of you as an individual and then as a unit. We can't really get to know a relationship, the people involved and the issues with just the standard one or one and a half hours.
During the first session I will speak to you first as a couple and then as individuals to then end the session with both of you to start the planning phase.
What is the planning phase?
This is where we start putting together ideas and methods of retaining trust, rebuilding a solid foundation and working on perceptions of both the self and your partner. How you see yourself and your partner are huge aspects of a relationship.
So many people in relationships, especially when there has been building tension, broken trust, true toxic energy etc, have repressed animosity, resentment and anger that does not get expressed for one reason or another and it does affect how your seen your self and your partner.
We address that.
We work on a plan of action to fix that.
I do not do cookie cutter one size fits all, one plan for everyone services.
This is not something where I can have you fill out a questionnaire and then provide a grade and "communication homework" where all conversations start with "I feel".
This will be in depth and it will be hard.
I am not going to say that you will not ever be angry at your partner or yourself during or after sessions because that is not true.
There will most likely be times you don't like what your partner is saying.
What they are asking for.
Etc.
That's normal and healthy.
The key is to learn how to take that anger look at why you are angry about it and figure out how to solve it if it can be solved.
It's also important to remember that being angry is not a bad thing. It's not something you have to hide.
And when we are in session it is safe for you to express that anger in a reasonable way.
We address behaviors
Ways of talking to each other
How to compromise
When it's time to walk away from a conversation.
The ACTIONS that build trust.
The ACTIONS that show emotional and mental reliability and dependability.
Actions are going to be the focus of our plans of action.
Actions as a couple and actions as individuals.
We don't only address issues with trust and infidelity.
We also address intimacy issues, past trauma responses in relationships
How to both minimize those responses and how to deal with those responses when you are on the other side of them.
We can also address individual self confidence, self control, image and healthy actions. If you aren't in a relationship and feel you would benefit from these you are more than welcome!
If you a ready to start taking the steps to a healthy a productive relationship contact me today!
It's not hopeless!
Please text or email prior to calling.
It helps me stay better organized.
Please send a brief introduction of both yourself and your partner (if there is one)
As well as your perceived issues and theirs if you know them.
A short history.
And your contact info along with best times to contact you and best time for sessions.
1st session 2.5 hours-$ 150
Each following session (suggested scheduling is done at first session based on starting plan and what works for you) -$75.
If you buy 5 sessions to start after first session you get a 15% discount
10 sessions after first = 25% discount.
All unused sessions are eligible for 50% refund.
Contact me now!
